It’s OK. I never had a “man card”

You hear people — well, guys, at least — talk about the “man card.” Supposedly, when we do something that our guy friends would classify as not very manly, they strip us of our “man card.”

I’m calling nonsense.

This is a stupid concept. In fact, it only plays into our country’s existing issues with sexism. It further validates the status quo for how men & women are supposed to act in a social situation. And it hinders authenticity. It borderline encourages men to act a certain way, even if that’s not at all how they believe they should act… or want to act.

I don’t have a man card. I may have had one in my latter high school years, and possibly a short stretch my freshman year of college, but those days are long gone (Even longer than the 9 years since I was a freshman in college. I age quicker than most.)

  • I don’t drink beer. Haven’t for several years now.
  • I’m not going to sit on the couch & watch football all day Sunday.
  • I’d probably fill out a better NCAA Tournament bracket by using team colors.
  • If I want to go get a manicure/pedicure, I’ll just go get one. Simple as that.

I’ll stop there, but you get the point.

Human Card

I will say this. Perhaps I have a human card.

  • It reminds me to reduce, reuse, recycle, and lower my impact on this Earth.
  • To be nice to others. Treat people with respect.
  • Be honest. Don’t sugar coat things.
  • Open the door for… everybody.
  • Help people. My friends, those in need, and sometimes people that just ask for it.

The coolest thing about the Human Card. No matter what silly statement you make, what you eat (or don’t eat), or whatever you do decide to do with your girlfriend that you know you’ll hear crap about later…

No one can ever take it away from me. For any reason. Ever.

2 thoughts on “It’s OK. I never had a “man card””

  1. Such a good post/good points!

    You and my husband should be friends. He also doesn’t drink beer, doesn’t play video games/watch sports (except for baseball because I like to watch it too), and other activities that are “super-manly” and whatnot. Annnd last time I checked, he’s still a fantastic man. He’s probably one of the few guys I’ve known that will order a fruity cocktail for himself and not feel the slightest bit awkward. Hey, do what makes you happy, not what makes you “fit” into society’s definition of what a man/woman should do!

    Although I don’t know that I could get him to have a manicure or pedicure. He went with me once and did feel awkward…the ladies kept telling him how nice his feet are…haha!

  2. Thanks Katie. It’s nice to now have proof that I’m not the only one.

    Truth be told, I felt a little awkward too when I got a pedicure. But I’d go back in a heartbeat for the foot massage.

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